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- Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1578562589
- Publisher: WaterBrook Press; 1 edition (July 1 2009)
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Sold by: Random House Canada, Incorp.
- Language: English
- ASIN: B000SEHC18
Book Description
With nearly a million copies sold, Joanna Weaver's popular book shows
women how to blend intimacy with Jesus and service for Him.
An
invitation for every woman who feels she isn't godly enough...isn't
loving enough...isn't doing enough. The life of a woman today isn't
really all that different from that of Mary and Martha in the New
Testament. Like Mary, you long to sit at the Lord's feet...but the daily
demands of a busy world just won't leave you alone. Like Martha, you
love Jesus and really want to serve him...yet you struggle with
weariness, resentment, and feelings of inadequacy.
Then comes
Jesus, right into the midst of your busy Mary/Martha life-and he extends
the same invitation he issued long ago to the two sisters of Bethany.
Tenderly he invites you to choose "the better part"-a joyful life of
"living-room" intimacy with him that flows naturally into "kitchen
service" for him.
How can you make that choice? With her fresh
approach to the familiar Bible story and its creative, practical
strategies, Joanna shows how all of us -Marys and Marthas alike- can
draw closer to our Lord, deepening our devotion, strengthening our
service, and doing both with less stress and greater joy.
This book includes a twelve-week Bible study.
Also look for the ten-week DVD study pack companion product to this
book, which includes three DVDs and a separate, revised and expanded
study guide.
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
Chapter 1:
A Tale of Two Sisters
As Jesus and
his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman
named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who
sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.LUKE 10 : 3 8 - 3 9
Have you ever tried to do it all?
I
have, I do, and I probably always will. It’s not only in my nature;
it’s also in my job description–and yours, too. Being a woman requires
more stamina, more creativity, and more wisdom than I ever dreamed as a
young girl. And that’s not just true for today’s busy women. It has
always been the case.
In 1814, Martha Forman was married to a
wealthy Maryland plantation owner. You might expect she spent her days
sipping tea, being fitted for lovely gowns, and giving orders to her
servants as she chatted with important guests. Instead, Martha worked
right beside her servants from four in the morning to eleven o’clock at
night. Among her daily activities were the following:
Making
thirty to thirty-four pounds of old tallow into candles; cutting out
fourteen shirts, jackets or trousers for the slaves (whom she always
called “the people” or “our family”); knitting stockings; washing;
dyeing and spinning wool; baking mince pies and potato puddings; sowing
wheat or reaping it; killing farm animals and salting the meat; planting
or
picking fruits and vegetables; making jams, jellies, and preserves with
her fruit; helping whitewash or paint walls; ironing; preparing for
large parties; caring for sick family and slaves.
So, what did
you do today? You may not have slaughtered a hog or harvested wheat, but
I know you were busy. Whether you were out selling real estate or at
home kissing boo-boos (or both), your day passed just as quickly. And
your mind and body are probably as tired as poor Martha Forman’s as you
steal a few moments to spend with this book.
Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World. The
thought intrigues you. Deep inside of you there is a hunger, a calling,
to know and love God. To truly know Jesus Christ and the fellowship of
the Spirit. You’re not after more head knowledge– it’s heart-to-heart
intimacy you long for.
Yet a part of you hangs back. Exhausted,
you wonder how to find the strength or time. Nurturing your spiritual
life seems like one more duty–one more thing to add to a life that is
spilling over with responsibilities. It’s almost as if you’re standing
on the bottom rung of a ladder that stretches up to heaven. Eager but
daunted, you name the rungs with spiritual things you know you should
do: study the Bible, pray, fellowship…
“He’s up there somewhere,”
you say, swaying slightly as you peer upward, uncertain how to begin or
if you even want to attempt the long, dizzy climb. But to do nothing
means you will miss what your heart already knows: There is more to this
Christian walk than you’ve experienced. And you’re just hungry
enough–just desperate enough–to want it all.
A TALE OF TWO SISTERSPerhaps
no passage of Scripture better describes the conflict we feel as women
than the one we find in the gospel of Luke. Just mention the names Mary
and Martha around a group of Christian women and you’ll get knowing
looks and nervous giggles. We’ve all felt the struggle. We want to
worship like Mary, but the Martha inside keeps bossing us around.
Here’s
a refresher course in case you’ve forgotten the story. It’s found in
Luke. It’s the tale of two sisters. It’s the tale of you and me. As
Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a
woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary,
who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was
distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him
and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the
work by myself? Tell her to help me!”
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord
answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but only one
thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be
taken away from her.” (10:38-42)
A MARTHA WORLDWhen I
read the first part of Mary and Martha’s story, I must admit I find
myself cheering for Martha. I know we tend to sing Mary’s praises in
Bible studies. But Martha, to be honest, appeals more to my
perfectionist tendencies. What a woman! She opens her home to a band of
thirteen hungry men, possibly more. What a hostess! She doesn’t whip up
an impromptu casserole of Kraft macaroni and cheese and Ballpark franks
as I’ve been known to do on occasion.
Not her! She is the
original Martha Stewart, the New Testament’s Proverbs 31 woman, and
Israel’s answer to Betty Crocker. Or at least that’s the way I imagine
her. She’s the Queen of the Kitchen–and the rest of the house as well.
And
Luke’s story starts with Martha in her glory. After all, this is Jesus.
She scraps her ordinary everyday menu of soup and bread and pulls out
all her cookbooks. This, she decides, will be a banquet fit for a
messiah. For
the Messiah. Martha sends one servant to the field
to slaughter a lamb, another to the market to pick up a few of those
luscious pomegranates she saw yesterday. Like a military general, she
barks commands to her kitchen staff. Soak the lentils! Pound the grain!
Knead the dough!
So many things to do and so little time. She
must make sure the centerpiece and the napkins match, that the servant
pours the wine from the right and not the left. Martha’s mind is as busy
as a room filled with kindergartners. What would be just right for
dessert? A little goat cheese with a tray of fresh fruit? Will Jesus and
his followers stay overnight? Someone must change the sheets and fold
some towels.
“Where’s Mary? Has anyone seen Mary?” she asks a
servant scurrying by. If Mary changed the sheets, Martha might have time
to fashion an ark from the cheese and carve the fruit into little
animals marching two by two. Productions of this magnitude require the
skill of a master planner. And Martha’s an administrator
extraordinaire–a whirling dervish of efficiency, with a touch of
Tasmanian she-devil thrown in to motivate the servants.
I happen
to be the oldest in my family. Perhaps that’s why I understand how
frustrated Martha must have felt when she finally found Mary. The entire
household is in an uproar, busy making ready to entertain the most
famous teacher of their day, the man most likely to become the next king
of Israel. I can relate to the anger that boils up inside of Martha at
the sight of her lazy sibling sitting at the Master’s feet in the living
room.
It’s simply too much. With everything still left to do,
there sits little Mary, being quite contrary, crashing a party meant
only for men. But worse, she seems oblivious to all of Martha’s
gesturing from the hall.
Martha tries clearing her throat. She
even resorts to her most effective tool: the “evil eye,” famous for
stopping grown men in their tracks. But nothing she does has any effect
on her baby sister. Mary only has eyes for Jesus.
Pushed to the
limit, Martha does something unprecedented. She interrupts the boys’
club, certain that Jesus will take her side. After all, a woman’s place
is in the kitchen. Her sister, Mary, should be helping prepare the meal.
Martha realizes there is a cutting edge to her voice, but Jesus will
understand. He, of all people, knows what it’s like to carry the weight
of the world.
Now of course, you won’t find all that in the
Bible. Luke tends to downplay the whole story, dedicating only four
verses to an event that was destined to change Martha’s life forever.
And mine as well. And yours, if you will let the simple truth of this
passage soak deep into your heart.
Instead of applauding Martha,
Jesus gently rebukes her, telling her Mary has chosen “what is better.”
Or, as another translation puts it, “Mary has chosen the better part”
(NRSV). “The better part?” Martha must have echoed incredulously. “The
better part!” I say to God in the midst of my own whirl of activity.
“You mean there’s more? I have to do more?”
No, no, comes the
answer to my tired heart. Jesus’ words in Luke 10 are incredibly freeing
to those of us on the performance treadmill of life. It isn’t “more” he
requires of us.
In fact, it may be less.
A MARY HEARTThe
Bible doesn’t tell us a lot about Mary and Martha. They are mentioned
by name only three times in Scripture: Luke 10:38-42, John 11:1-44, and
John 12:1-11. But from these brief accounts, a fascinating picture
develops of what life must have been like at the house in Bethany–and
what life is often like for us.
They say variety is the spice of
life. Perhaps that’s why God so often puts people of such different
personalities in the same family. (Either that, or he’s trying to
prepare us for marriage!) Mary was the sunlight to Martha’s thunder. She
was the caboose to Martha’s locomotive. Mary’s bent was to meander
through life, pausing to smell the roses. Martha was more likely to pick
the roses, quickly cut the stems at an angle, and arrange them in a
vase with baby’s breath and ferns.
That is not to say one is
right and one is wrong. We are all different, and that is just as God
made us to be. Each gifting and personality has its own strengths and
weaknesses, its glories and temptations.
I find it interesting
that when Jesus corrected Martha, he didn’t say, “Why can’t you be more
like your sister, Mary?” He knew Martha would never be Mary, and Mary
would never be Martha. ...
About the Author
Joanna Weaver is the best-selling author of
Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World,
Having a Mary Spirit, Lazarus Awakening, and the award-winning gift book
With This Ring. Her articles have appeared in such publications as
Focus on the Family, Guideposts, and
HomeLife. Joanna and her pastor-husband, John, have three children and live in Montana. Visit her website at
www.JoannaWeaverBooks.com.
My Review
I recently pulled this book, Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World, from my book shelf to skim through as I am attending a bible study on Women of the Bible...two of whom are Mary of Bethany and her sister Martha. I have always enjoyed this book because I have always seen myself as such a Martha with a huge desire to be a Mary. Don't know what I'm talking about...read the book and find out!
This is an excellent book for women particularly in these busy times when we are pulled in every direction. Joanna Weaver provides wonderful insight into these two women's lives and how we can learn from them today. There is also a study guide at the end of the book. I have found this book to be very helpful and inspiring and I highly recommend it.
Love this:
Ten Ways to Tame the Worry Habit
From Joanna Weaver's book
entitled
Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World.
10. Separate toxic worry from genuine concern. Determine if you can do anything about your situation. If so, sketch a plan to handle it. Proverbs 16:3
9. Don't worry alone.
Share your concerns with a friend or a counselor. You may receive
helpful advice. Talking your fears out with someone often reveals
solutions that were invisible before. Proverbs 27:9
8. Take care of your physical body.
Regular exercise and adequate rest can defuse a lot of worry. When our
bodies are healthy, our minds can handle stress better and react more
appropriately. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
7. Do what is right.
A guilty conscience can cause more anxiety than a world of problems. Do
your best to live above reproach. Take care of mistakes quickly by
confessing and seeking forgiveness. Acts 24:16
6. Look on the bright side. Consciously focus on what is good around you. Don't let yourself speak negatively, even about yourself. Ephesians 4:29
5. Control your imagination. Be realistic about the problems you face. Try to live in the "here and now" not in the "what might be." Isaiah 35:3-4
4. Prepare for the unexpected. Put aside a cash reserve and take sensible measures so you'll be ready if difficulties arise. Proverbs 21:20
3. Trust God. Keep reminding yourself to put God in your equation. Then, when fear knocks, you can send faith to answer the door. Psalm 112:7
2. Meditate on God's promises.
Scripture has the power to transform our minds. Look for Scriptures
that deal with your particular areas of anxiety. Answer life's
difficulties with God's Word. 1 Peter 1:4
1. And the number one way to tame a worry habit?
Pray! Joseph
M. Scriven's hymn says it all: "O what peace we often forfeit, O what
needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry, everything to God in
prayer." Colossians 4:2
